Comments on: LOST TRUST? http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/ Seeing And Living Each Moment For The Moment It Is Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:34:29 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Smiley http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2642 Smiley Sun, 18 Feb 2007 04:41:38 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2642 Will, I hate to say it - but what is the motives of your comment, here? Don't know if you realize it, but I kept it pretty quiet the things which you've done. I wonder if people you are commenting to would like to know what you did to them, that I hid to protect their feelings? Once again, what is the motive of this entry? You don't need to worry as I don't play dirty. You're demented secret is safe with me :) Will, I hate to say it – but what is the motives of your comment, here? Don’t know if you realize it, but I kept it pretty quiet the things which you’ve done. I wonder if people you are commenting to would like to know what you did to them, that I hid to protect their feelings? Once again, what is the motive of this entry? You don’t need to worry as I don’t play dirty. You’re demented secret is safe with me :)

]]> By: Will http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2639 Will Sun, 18 Feb 2007 01:34:42 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2639 Every person who blogs long enough has been badly burned in this way. I have managed to launch my current blog w/o my real world friends knowing it exists, and plan to keep it that way. And I barely mention such real world people, except in the most heavily veiled and bland manner. It would be nice to believe that all people one might meet and get to know are kind hearted and well principled. However, this is sadly not always the case in this world. There are malevolent souls lurking about (sometimes very well disguised, too – a devil can appear quite appealing to one’s eyes and senses at times) who can harm you on a whim. When blindsided by such people, one needs to live and learn and to ponder as to where there might have been a prior sign of things to come. I can honestly say that the last time this happened to me (the broken trust thing you describe), there were several worrisome signs I had observed in the individual: the things they said, and the situations and behavioral patterns that they tended to repeat, which made me a bit cautious. After all, when a person repeats a given situation, the only common thread is the person themselves. I belatedly learned that I should have been extremely cautious. I survived and grew wiser as a result of the experience. Every person who blogs long enough has been badly burned in this way. I have managed to launch my current blog w/o my real world friends knowing it exists, and plan to keep it that way. And I barely mention such real world people, except in the most heavily veiled and bland manner. It would be nice to believe that all people one might meet and get to know are kind hearted and well principled. However, this is sadly not always the case in this world.

There are malevolent souls lurking about (sometimes very well disguised, too – a devil can appear quite appealing to one’s eyes and senses at times) who can harm you on a whim. When blindsided by such people, one needs to live and learn and to ponder as to where there might have been a prior sign of things to come. I can honestly say that the last time this happened to me (the broken trust thing you describe), there were several worrisome signs I had observed in the individual: the things they said, and the situations and behavioral patterns that they tended to repeat, which made me a bit cautious. After all, when a person repeats a given situation, the only common thread is the person themselves.

I belatedly learned that I should have been extremely cautious. I survived and grew wiser as a result of the experience.

]]> By: Lewis http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2579 Lewis Fri, 09 Feb 2007 20:25:17 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2579 Ouch. Trust issues. Ick. I wish you the confidence to feel good about exactly who you are and where you are in your life. No matter what. Relax in the fact that it is, indeed, OK for others to know who you are, that you're gay, and that you're GREAT. Greg is right....it is the internet....and that's very very cool. You do such a beautiful service to all of us here on your site. Relax, my friend. This too shall pass. Ouch. Trust issues. Ick. I wish you the confidence to feel good about exactly who you are and where you are in your life. No matter what. Relax in the fact that it is, indeed, OK for others to know who you are, that you’re gay, and that you’re GREAT. Greg is right….it is the internet….and that’s very very cool. You do such a beautiful service to all of us here on your site. Relax, my friend. This too shall pass.

]]> By: Tony (LT) http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2571 Tony (LT) Fri, 09 Feb 2007 06:28:10 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2571 Tony, I'm sorry to hear that someone may have betrayed you. That is the worst thing a person can do. And i hope that is not what really happened. If it is, I hope the person understands the depths of their misbehavior and have enough respect to apologize to you. I think the people who are saying "well, it is the internet..." are missing the point of you post. The post is about trust, not about being discovered. Big hug. Tony,

I’m sorry to hear that someone may have betrayed you. That is the worst thing a person can do. And i hope that is not what really happened.

If it is, I hope the person understands the depths of their misbehavior and have enough respect to apologize to you.

I think the people who are saying “well, it is the internet…” are missing the point of you post. The post is about trust, not about being discovered.

Big hug.

]]> By: Scotty http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2567 Scotty Thu, 08 Feb 2007 23:35:19 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2567 Wow...this sucks...but I can soooo relate. You know, I always knew people would eventually find my blog, but i never dreamed it would be blatently used against me. I hope it works out OK for you but I have found that once it is out...it snowballs from there. When i deleted my blog I was at the end of my rope. Hang in there bud. I miss our conversations btw. Wow…this sucks…but I can soooo relate. You know, I always knew people would eventually find my blog, but i never dreamed it would be blatently used against me.

I hope it works out OK for you but I have found that once it is out…it snowballs from there. When i deleted my blog I was at the end of my rope. Hang in there bud. I miss our conversations btw.

]]> By: Robert http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2560 Robert Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:30:59 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2560 Whatever I put on the internet, it's out to the world, there's always the risk of being exposed to someone, somewhere. I learn not to hang on to things too much these days - no attachment. Whatever you do or don't, I hope you're feeling better Tony. xoxo Whatever I put on the internet, it’s out to the world, there’s always the risk of being exposed to someone, somewhere. I learn not to hang on to things too much these days – no attachment.

Whatever you do or don’t, I hope you’re feeling better Tony. xoxo

]]> By: Al http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2556 Al Thu, 08 Feb 2007 07:07:02 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2556 Hi Tony. Sorry to hear about all this. Do you have a good enough relationship with the person you entrusted to your blog to just simply bring the issue up, as it may clear the air and get the correct story out in the open? Unfortunately, the reality of online publishing requires us to accept that anyone, at anytime, has access to all that we have written. When you look at like that it can be daunting. But you're an intelligent guy with a solid, grounded head on his shoulders. Regardless of the outcome, this is something I think you'll come out ahead on. Hi Tony. Sorry to hear about all this. Do you have a good enough relationship with the person you entrusted to your blog to just simply bring the issue up, as it may clear the air and get the correct story out in the open?

Unfortunately, the reality of online publishing requires us to accept that anyone, at anytime, has access to all that we have written. When you look at like that it can be daunting. But you’re an intelligent guy with a solid, grounded head on his shoulders. Regardless of the outcome, this is something I think you’ll come out ahead on.

]]> By: Smiley http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2554 Smiley Thu, 08 Feb 2007 03:24:35 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2554 Sweet Dreams, Tony. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you! Sweet Dreams, Tony.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!

]]> By: Derek http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2552 Derek Thu, 08 Feb 2007 02:29:25 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2552 Tony, I'm so sorry someone may have betrayed your trust. Your a wonderful guy! Anyone that reads this blog will just learn about how wonderful you are! Tony, I’m so sorry someone may have betrayed your trust. Your a wonderful guy! Anyone that reads this blog will just learn about how wonderful you are!

]]> By: Mike http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2551 Mike Thu, 08 Feb 2007 00:31:24 +0000 http://lifescolorfulbrushstrokes.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/lost-trust/#comment-2551 Tony, it's hard to see you in pain. You're one of the first people to comment on my blog, so I have always felt good things about you. I've noticed that your picture shows on your comments on other blogs, so someone you know has to see just one of those to trace you back to your homepage. I've resolved that I'm in my late forties. I don't give a damn anymore about what "other people think" or find out about me. You're a nice guy, and I think that's what your friends might find out about you. Hugs, guy. Tony, it’s hard to see you in pain. You’re one of the first people to comment on my blog, so I have always felt good things about you. I’ve noticed that your picture shows on your comments on other blogs, so someone you know has to see just one of those to trace you back to your homepage.

I’ve resolved that I’m in my late forties. I don’t give a damn anymore about what “other people think” or find out about me. You’re a nice guy, and I think that’s what your friends might find out about you.

Hugs, guy.

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