…ABOUT YOURSELF? Have you ever asked yourself that question? I suspect most people have. I know that it has crossed my mind on a number of occasions. It often crosses my mind when things aren’t going my way and I’m in a bit of a ‘funk.’
It’s not a particularly an easy question to answer forthright and sincerely. Heck, I struggle with it. It is, in essence, an admission of being flawed. And heaven forbid if we’re not perfect. So, I suspect you are probably asking, “What is it you would change about yourself Tony?” This isn’t particularly easy to admit in this type of environment but I am going to go for it. You’ll probably understand this statement when you see my response momentarily. While at times I may come across as a very public person and social, I am not. If I could change one thing about myself, it would be the inherent fear I have always had of not meeting someone’s expectations. Think about how many fears seem to narrow down to this one particular fear. Fear of failure, fear of not being attractive, fear of intelligence or lack of . You have the picture!? I’m not saying these apply to me but I have always put pressure on myself. And it only seems in the past five years that I have recognized this and tried to come to grips with the fear. I think I have come a long way but, at the same time, it seems that as of late, I am slipping backwards. I hate that feeling. What am I doing? I simply try to slow down for the moment and tell myself that I am doing the best that I personally can do and no one, I mean no one, has the right to say otherwise than moi!
With that all said, I’m asking YOU,
“What one thing would you change about yourself, if it could be granted?”
And here is the kicker, you need to consider that the change, if not granted, could still be something attainable by an individual. Make sense? Let me know.
November 7, 2007 at 4:30 am
Physically, i would have the beer belly removed (if i would quit drinking and eating that would go away)… otherwise, I probably would have come out a bit earlier in life and in turn been a little more aggressive in my career path….
November 7, 2007 at 7:44 am
Wow… what an excellent post. I give you kudos for sharing something so personal when many bloggers don’t or can’t. When interacting with others, try to be more spontaneous and listen to what’s going on in their life too. When talking about yours, try not to sound like you are going down a checklist reading from a script.
If I could change anything about myself, it would be to overcome the insecurities that make me always seem to settle for less in others (friends, career, lovers, etc.) I wish I could stand up for myself more and say “NO!” more.
November 7, 2007 at 1:52 pm
I think your fear may come from being the oldest and a boy. You don’t need to worry about that with me. My expectations of you are low
Just kidding LOL. I hope that made you laugh xoxoxo I believe I’ve changed everything about myself that I wanted and could. But there are some things which I’ve wanted to change but can’t. Like my temper. The only thing I’ve been able to do with that is learn how to control and regulate it. For example recognizing when I’m going to lose it; and excusing myself from the situation until I calm down. But that doesn’t always work, because sometimes people are too pig-headed to listen to me. They say things like, “Oh no, don’t you walk away from me halfway through this discussion” or “It’s always on your terms.” Basically not allowing me to decompress. And then it unleashes LOL. I don’t like it about myself. But some things I believe we can only work around. Not necessarily ‘change.’
Hope you’re doing well. Drop me an email sometime. I’m back in Maryland after being overseas for about a month. Not sure what the next game-plan will be.
November 7, 2007 at 4:34 pm
I would want a better body. Not Lou Ferrigno muscled but toned, slender, etc. Growing up chubby has always been a struggle with how people perceive me, how I perceive myself, the numerous diets. To not have to worry as much about that aspect of my appearance would be wonderful.
November 7, 2007 at 8:36 pm
Awesome post mr, and very thought out. I struggle with those same fears, or have. I wish I were more confident in myself and my abilities.
November 8, 2007 at 5:10 am
I can have a temper at times. I’d love to have that more under control. And to be 4″ taller.
November 8, 2007 at 8:29 am
Well, I always wanted to be blond, now I’m just wishing for more hair in that solar panel area…
but seriously, I would like to have the ability to debate without getting so upset at the people I’m having the discussion with.
November 8, 2007 at 10:33 am
I’d like to overcome my fear of abandonment. I’m not afraid of being alone, but I am afraid of being lonely. That and a thicker head of hair!
November 8, 2007 at 11:57 pm
I would change my awkwardness in social situations. I would like to be able to be comfortable with new people and strangers.
As far as appearance, I would have a smaller nose and a bigger chest.
November 9, 2007 at 12:16 pm
I would like to finally figure out what’s keeping me from getting the things I want. I know it’s easier to see these things from the outside than the inside, but the solution would have to feel RIGHT to me…
And therein lies the rub.
November 11, 2007 at 8:42 am
marvelous question!
in hindsight i realize nearly 100% of what i feared in life turned out ok or not so. So i would change in myself – the tendency to be anxious. Trust God. Be not afraid.
I am still working on this.