So normally this has been a ‘THIS OR THAT’ Thursday post. And normally you have seen me with some more regularity. But somehow these days, the ‘UMPH’ has just not been there. I honestly was going to let this week go by with yet another post-less period. Since the weekend, I have had this feeling within me that my world was about to enter this ‘out-of-sync’ period. I can’t explain why. I just felt it. Would it be personally, professionally, or both?
Have you ever felt this way? Have you seen those feelings become reality? Well it appears to be happening to me to some degree. For the past two to three months, while work has been going fine, I have experienced this void within my personal life. I don’t think some people really understand the connection I make with certain people and why they become such an integral part of my life. Hell, I don’t fully understand sometimes. What I do know, is that its the compassion and genuineness within me that, in part, dictates some of those characteristics. Today I find myself asking, “How much can ones mind, ones body, ones spirit take before ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?” It seems that several people in my life that I care for immensely are struggling with their physical and/or mental health. A few of them have been pushed to limits that I am almost positive I could never endure without some loss of sanity. Their experiences really have given me cause to place my life into perspective. However, emotionally, I am hurting for them. If I were being truthful, I am hurting for myself too.
You may be asking yourself where is all my rather cryptic thought heading here. Remember I mentioned earlier that I felt this week was an ‘out-of’sync’ week for me. This past Tuesday, Spider was back in Orlando for a myriad of tests, to include a full-body CT scan that would determine the status of his colon cancer (post-chemo treatment) and whether it has metastasized to any other part of his body. One of the myriad of tests pertained to scoping his arteries to his heart. See, Spider has been having mild shortness of breath again and feeling exceptionally lethargic. Earlier testing from three weeks ago showed that the lower portion of his heart was not getting sufficient blood. So to the point, Spider went into the hospital Tuesday for the scoping procedure. While undergoing the procedure, he had a moderate stroke. Coincidentally, Spider had informed me during our Monday night phone conversation that he was afraid for the first time since all his health issues began. The stroke left him with some temporary paralysis on his right side but the indication yesterday, Wednesday, was that he had regained function of his faculties, speech and movement, again. At this juncture, I am waiting to hear if the latest news is in fact definitive and if he truly is 100%.
Guys, Spider has so many other issues on the plate that I simply am not choosing to discuss right now. I find it all overwhelming to see a 48-year old man, only one year older than me, handling so much. And I know the wear on his body is wearing on his mind, and at times, his spirit. Please, please keep him in your prayers. I so want to see him achieve some normalcy back in his life.
Thanks for listening to my ‘blubbering.’
SPIDER, GET WELL…..HUGS!
January 10, 2008 at 5:56 am
I share your disbelief that someone so young should have to deal with so much.
He, and you, are in my thoughts. *hugs*
January 10, 2008 at 6:13 am
Son of a bitch, sorry to hear all this. My heart goes out to the 2 of you and I pray that he bounces back.
I know where you are coming from bud, sometimes everyday life takes too much energy to get thru the day, and the blog gets put on the back burner. It may be also it’s just time to take a break from posting. Been there done that one. I hope you still comment and call from time to time to let me know how things are going.
Love and positive energy to both you and Spidey.
January 10, 2008 at 6:46 am
Sh*t!
You guys have been and are (daily) in my prayers, so know that you have them always!
What a bum rap! for Spider and for you because I picked up long ago how much you mean to each other.
If I may though, and you have a spare prayer, may I ask one for Bigg?
January 10, 2008 at 7:53 am
Man oh man, I know you’ve been MIA for a bit…but I had no idea. It’s amazing that some bodies have to go through what they do, while others seeminly “skate through” in spite of the abuse they take. Hugs to you and Spider both.
January 10, 2008 at 9:00 am
Sending out good vibes to you and Spider.
I know what you’re talking about, Bro.
Peace, and speedy recovery to your bud….
January 10, 2008 at 9:29 am
“How much can ones mind, ones body, ones spirit take before ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?”
tell me about it.
one of the hardest things in our lives is seeing loved ones suffer, and feeling helpless to do anything about it. The more people we know who suffer, the more overwhelming it gets. i think a lot of people’s grief nowadays is the instant, global bombardment of the whole world’s problems coming at us every day.
Mine is confounded by making a living dealing with human sorrow and suffering - it gets all too much at times.
your quote is apt - how do we do it, keeping a fine line of ‘not caring’ vs. caring so much we get our own self’s sick?
it may be mawkish but i believe sharing one’s grief remains one of the best coping mechanisms.
the other is taking time off to take care of yourself.
These are not very efficacious tools but perhaps all we have at times.
BTW, I think of mr. spider all the time, and have him into the rosary prayers.
January 10, 2008 at 9:34 am
Tony,
I’m sending all my positive thoughts both of your ways. It sounds like he’s going to be 100% stroke recovered. I hope so!
January 10, 2008 at 9:49 am
He has and continues to be in my prayers. That goes for you to!
January 10, 2008 at 1:13 pm
Prayers are with you and Spider…
January 10, 2008 at 4:01 pm
I had been thinking of Spider lately and the fact that he should be well on his way to a full recovery. I’m so sorry to hear that’s not the case. My thoughts are with you both and as Spo said, sharing is a good way of coping, so talk us up buddy.
Big hugs to you T!
January 10, 2008 at 4:49 pm
As everyday I pray for you guys! I try and believe we make our own reality. The reality is someone we all love and care for is going through the fight of his life. I know the feeling of helplessness. I too send out vibes of love and continue to keep Spider and you in my prayers. I continue to keep believing he’s going to beat this thing, that is my reality, and I hope if we make our own reality that is what happens.
January 10, 2008 at 4:52 pm
much love going out to you buddy
January 10, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Damn. Just when you think Spider is going to catch a break.
I think about him all the time and keep him close to my heart, Tony.
January 11, 2008 at 6:29 am
Fcuk is the first word that comes to my mind.
Please wish him from this long time southern hemisphere admirer of his. He is much loved and thought about.
January 11, 2008 at 11:37 am
Tony, best wishes to you. You’ve been such a loyal friend to so many. I truly hope that you’re going to receive all your concern and joy back — multiplied — in return.
I think of Spider daily. He was the man that introduced so many of us in blogland, always leaving us inspiring comments.
I hope this can be a “Warm and Fuzzy Friday” for you both.
January 11, 2008 at 2:45 pm
Tony,
Please make sure to let Spider know that the Auburn Tony from Georgia was wishing him well. Thanks!
January 13, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Best wish to Spider and hope that he gets well soon.
January 28, 2008 at 5:33 am
Happened upon your site, did some reading. Was very touched about your friend Spider. I went through the same thing and the outcome was so painful, lost her in August. Hope nothing but the best for you and your buddy. Would seem to me you tend to be a bit empathic yourself…you feel deeply. Sometimes its good to feel and identify with others pains and problems… it allows us to use to the very fullest all that is god within our minds hearts and souls, pain can permit us to see and appreciate more of the beauty and blessings